How to Be True to Yourself(怎样对自己诚实）
How to Be True to Yourself

My grandparents believed you were either honest or you weren't. There was no in between.

They had a simple motto hanging on their living-room wall: "Life is like a field of newly fallen snow; where I choose to walk every step will show. "They didn't have to talk about it--they demonstrated
the motto by the way they lived.

They understood instinctively that integrity means having a personal standard of morality and ethics that does not sell out to expediency and that is not relative to the situation at hand. Integrity is an inner standard for judging your behavior.Unfortunately, integrity is in short supply today--and getting scarcer. But it is the real bottom line in every area of society.And it is something we must demand of ourselves.

A good test for this value is to look at what I call the Integrity Trial, which consists of three key principles:

Stand firmly for your convictions in the face of personal pressure.

When you know you're right, you can't back down.

Always give others credit that is rightfully theirs. Don't be afraid of those who might have a better idea or who might even be smarter than you are.

Be honest and open about who you really are. People who lack genuine core values rely on external factors--their looks or status---in order to feel good about themselves. Inevitably they will do everything they can to preserve this facade,but they will do very little to develop their inner value and personal growth.

So be yourself. Don't engage in a personal cover-up of areas that are unpleasing in your life. When it's tough, do it tough. In other words, face reality and be adult in your responses to life's challenges.

Self-respect and a clear conscience are powerful components of integrity and are the basis for enriching your relationships with others.

Integrity means you do what you do because it's right and not just fashionable or politically correct. A life of principle, of not succumbing to the seductive sirens of an easy morality,will always win the day. My grandparents taught me that.

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怎样对自己诚实

我的爷爷和奶奶认为，你要么是诚实的，要么不是，不可能介于两者之间。

在他们起居室的墙上挂着一幅简单易懂的座右铭：“生活好像一片刚刚落满白雪的土地；我走到哪里，我的每一个脚印就会出现在哪里。”他们无需就此加以评说—一他们是以身体力行的方式来证实这幅座右铭的。

他们本能的理解是，诚实意味着具备一定的伦理道德标准，既不看风使舵，也不随着眼下的形势而转移。诚实是判断你行为的内在标准。遗憾的是，如今，诚实处在短缺状态——甚至越来越稀罕。然而，它却是社会各个领域真正的思想底线，而且是我们必须要求自己严格做到的。

检验这种价值标准的一个有效方法是，参看我所指的诚实考验，其中包括三条主要原则：……之后的内容由于编辑时间问题暂时省略，希望大家理解。